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For some reason I wrote in my journal in ’89,
“A flirt gets a flirt’s reward.” This is true in intimate relationships.
Flirt with someone and they think you are merely toying with them. If
they flirt back, you can both toy with each other. Somewhere in the
relationship you will have to bury your toys in the sandbox and dive
into the deeper part of the pool. Sometimes a flirt fears rejection so much
that he/she does not reveal their level of desire. Flirting can become a
flight from love. It is also true in our daily occupations.
Those who go to college and change majors over and over are just
flirting with their futures. All their future gets is little peck on the
cheek. At some point we must fall in love with
someone and let him or her know the depth of our feelings. Yes, we may
get rejected but rejection beats beating around the bush. Rejection
beats dishonesty. To withhold our true feeling is a form of dishonesty. Naturally we like to have some inkling of
someone’s feelings for us before we fully reveal our own. I am not
saying we should gush out eternal love for someone before the
relationship has matured. It’s not a bad idea to honestly ask, “Are
we to the point of expressing how we feel for each other?” In our work, we had better fall in love
with what we are doing or we will never succeed. I recently taught a
college writing class and I said, “Until we become obsessed with
something, we are not going very far with it.” So I am recommending obsession? Yes, I sit
here enjoying light on my keyboard as I write because Edison was a man
obsessed. I will drive out somewhere to eat in a few minutes because
Ford was a man obsessed. If he hadn’t been, I would be hoofing it. A flirt’s reward might put enough
groceries on your table to keep you from starving but it will never make
you a notable success. The most regrettable aspect of a flirt’s life
is that he/she never gets to experience the “thrill of the chase,”
the joy of complete immersion in fulfilling work. Those times when we
get lost in the joy. One hour of being spiritually lost in your
work will permanently cure you of flirting. You will never be satisfied
again to not be in love. Visit Dalton’s website at www.daltonroberts.com.
His writings are gathered at www.ipsfeatures.com.
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